Oh yeah! 69, add me three on that one.

Sienna, correct me if I am wrong. In black Buttterfly did Sydney and Nolen apply asphyxiation in their love play.

Ayana – yes they do practice asphyxiation. Some people were a bit turned off by it. But it was kind of fun to write. And a little weird. LOL!

Yeah, I had that moment too. But because he used his hands and he loved her. I was able to rebound. I remember reading a story where scarves were used and I shut down right there. Did not finish it. That book turned about to be more pornographic as oppose to an erotic romance…to raw.

Sienna, I have learned that sometimes you have to push the envelope. I think we grow as writers that way. Then we test the waters and if more readers say no, then we say, okay, I tried. Now, maybe I will do this a little different or move on to the next. With erotica and sensual romance readers don’t like the same thing everytime… it gets stale after a while.

Of all things for me to poke my head in after forever. *grin*

1. Anal Play — I read and write both

2. Menage — This is all I write & most of what I read

3. DubCon — I haven’t written it, and I don’t read it, because when done wrong it can be a trigger.

4. Oral Play — I read and write both

5. Fire Play — I’ve read it, I don’t recall if I’ve written it. Wait, no, I think I have.

6. BDSM — Depends on the author. I write D/s themes in shifter cultures.

7. Fetish — Depends on the fetish

8. M/M — I write MM in my poly stories as MMF

9. F/F — I have an MMFF poly quad story coming down the line

10. Polyamory — All of my menages end as Poly HEAs

11. Role Play — I’ve read it, but only certain types appeal. I write paranormal and haven’t needed roleplay for more out there things. I could easily see writing it.

12. Masturbation — I read it and write it.

13. Water Play — Read it and write it, but I hate when it’s overlooked that water will wash away natural lubrication if you delay.

14. Missionary (can’t forget the all time fave in romance) — Read it and write it.

15. And I read and write other positions of course. *grin*

~X

I read and write anal, menage, polyamory, oral, mild BDSM, M/M, F/F, masturbation, occasional role play, water play, missionary. Some of my stuff might be considered fetish to some. For me pretty much anything goes as long as it involves consenting adults.

And you do an awesome job of it, Kate!! I think I have all of your books. Ha! I love all of your IR vampire books in the Carnal series:)

1. Anal Play — read/write

2. Menage — read/write only m/f/m One of my favorite mmf is Mya’s Guardian’s Desire. Both males were Alpha and I loved that.

3. DubCon (Dubious Consent – Didn’t every romance historical before 1989 begin with dubious consent. If you’re a fan of Johanna Lindsey’s books then you’re into dubcon because all of her relationships seemed to begin in this manner.

4. Oral Play — read/write How can you not feature this?

5. Fire Play (Is this BDSM or a separate category) — I would read it but unfortunately never came across it.

6. BDSM – light stuff only (bondage, blindfolds, mild dominance.) read and write light bdsm

7. Fetish – I both read and write it

8. M/M — I don’t read/write because I like my men alpha and usually one will come off beta.

9. F/F — no

10. Polyamory – Too many people in bed confuses me

11. Role Play – read and write

12. Masturbation – read and write Matter of fact I think every book that I’ve written features masturbation

13. Water Play ( I see a lot of writers do this and not even realize it. I love scenes in showers, lakes, pools) – read and write

14. Missionary (can’t forget the all time fave in romance) I think missionary is underplayed. So many of us try to go for the wow factor that we forget its such a relaxing, yet erotic position. So much so I point it out in Nerds Are Freaks Too.

1. Anal Play —– read/yes write/no

2. Menage ——- read/yes write/no

3. DubCon (Dubious Consent – some consider it rape some consider it forced sex which do you) — that would be no to both

4. Oral Play—— read/yes write/yes

5. Fire Play (Is this BDSM or a separate category) —– no and no

6. BDSM —— no and no

7. Fetish —— no and maybe

8. M/M ——— no and no

9. F/F ———– yes and keeping an open mind

10. Polyamory —-excuse my ignorance had to look that one up and…..no….no

11. Role Play——yes and yes

12. Masturbation —— yes and possibly

13. Water Play ( I see a lot of writers do this and not even realize it. I love scenes in showers, lakes, pools)—-yes and yes(if you count bathtubs)

14. Missionary (can’t forget the all time fave in romance)—–yes and yes

I’m a reader.

1. Anal Play — I don’t mind. I often wonder though why many stories do not include preparation before, so I don’t know how much fun that would be.

2. Menage — I read a few, but I really try to avoid. MFM only.

3. DubCon (Dubious Consent – some consider it rape some consider it forced sex which do you) – We normally allow for this because we know in the end they would live happily ever after.

4. Oral Play – Definitely

5. Fire Play (Is this BDSM or a separate category)-

Can be interesting, I read a few, don’t mind if it is not too intense or such as hot candle wax on genitals, really ridiculous in my opinion.

6. BDSM – I like, but not too heavy.

7. Fetish – I don’t really get them.

8. M/M – No.

9. F/F – If it is part of a story.

10. Polyamory – Get your own mate.

11. Role Play – Yes

12. Masturbation – Yes

13. Water Play ( I see a lot of writers do this and not even realize it. I love scenes in showers, lakes, pools) – Yes

14. Missionary (can’t forget the all time fave in romance) Yes

I am an reader not a writer and here is my take:

1. Anal Play- I read books with Anal Play and I love them in the right setting. Sometimes they are not written well.
2. Menage – I love Menage when they are written well. Sometimes I think that writers just throw them together with out a lot of thought about how the relationship should work.
3. DubCon (Dubious Consent – some consider it rape some consider it forced sex which do you)- Dubious Consent is OK as long as it is not forced.
4. Oral Play- Love Oral play in books but think that sometimes writers uses it as a filler.
5. Fire Play (Is this BDSM or a separate category)- I am not sure what this is so I do not know if I have read any books with it.
6. BDSM- I love books with light bondage and DOM/s play.
7. Fetish- No really into Fetish
8. M/M- I have read a few but not really my thing.
9. F/F- I have read a few and they are ok but not really my thing,
10. Polyamory- I like these stories as well.
11. Role Play= Role play is good in books
12. Masturbation- I like masturbation in books
13. Water Play ( I see a lot of writers do this and not even realize it. I love scenes in showers, lakes, pools)- a lot of books have water play. Maybe used too much. Not a lot of black women do water sex because of the hair issue.
14. Missionary (can’t forget the all time fave in romance)-I like to read Missionary in books.

1. Anal Play – Never written it and I don’t think I’ve come across it.
2. Menage – Written and read it.
3. DubCon (Dubious Consent – some consider it rape some consider it forced sex which do you) – Never seen it done well.
4. Oral Play – Yes and Yes.
5. Fire Play (Is this BDSM or a separate category) – Read an amazing male to female wax play and always wanted to write one.
6. BDSM – Yes and Yes.
7. Fetish – Depends on the fetish.
8. M/M – Never written it and haven’t read one yet.
9. F/F – Never written it and haven’t read one yet.
10. Polyamory – Not with more than one wife. But I wrote with more than one husband…for the purpose of werewolf clans.
11. Role Play – Depends on the scene.
12. Masturbation – Read and written.
13. Water Play – Read it but have yet to write one.
14. Missionary – I’ve read a lot of it but I want to write a new spin if I ever incorporate it.